They constantly threaten to throw me out of the house, and now separately, and depending on the day either one or the other tells me so. And here I am, for the third time in the same situation, in the family home, but now alone with my mother.
I decided to bet on my mother and move in with her to the family home.
In November, my mother and I decided that we were going to live together in the family home. The house was being sold and before it was sold, I decided to buy my father’s share with a financial agreement with him. I withdrew all the savings I had and gave them to my father. I told him clearly: I give you all my savings and I start paying you in February a monthly installment to buy your share of the house. I do my calculations and I know how far I can go. Well, the following month, in December, he already started demanding monthly payments. Since then, he has not stopped demanding his money aggressively. That I am a debtor, that I do not keep my word.
But who is the one who does not respect what was agreed?
Luckily WhatsApp exists and everything is written down, because otherwise he would directly call me a liar. Whether he believes it or not does not matter to me, but what the rest of the world thinks does matter. Because if there is one thing I am not, it is a liar or dishonest. The fact that he wants to create a false reputation for me is typical of a manipulative and unscrupulous person. Even so, in December I gave him something and in January I gave him something else, when we had clearly said that I would start in February.
I have rented apartments, I have made financial deals with many people and I have never met someone as aggressive and provocative as my father. He behaves like a bully. He threatens me, stands less than a meter away from me and says: hit me, come on, hit me.
Does he really think that at this stage of my life I have to endure this type of situation? People who need to belittle others to feel like someone.
He needs therapy because reaching such levels of verbal aggression is harmful for those who receive it. I do not have to tolerate that tone, that vocabulary or that emotional violence. I have audios that, if someone listened to them, should make them feel ashamed. And yet, his answer is that the one who should be ashamed is me, for being a prostitute.
Well no, I am not a prostitute. I am a sex worker, and with great pride.
They use the word prostitute in a derogatory way. And of course, my answer is: then you are a pimp, because you enjoy my money!
They still do not understand that my job is a decent job, not a brothel as they call it.
I am not to blame for the fact that they are so rude and ignorant as not to see it. Let them get over it.
What I cannot endure are the insults and constant shouting. I do not know what to do. They both accuse me of using my mother’s money. Curious, when they left the joint account at zero and since my mother is with me, she has saved money in her account. But they have so much nerve that they believe their own reality. Also, my mother has premature senile dementia from so many pills she takes and does not remember current things, but instead of acknowledging it, she fights to recover her memory, which is null, and gets you into trouble because she does not remember anything.
I feel a brutal helplessness.
And my mother… my mother is the worst. For her I decided to do all this and when she feels like it, because I fight not to be her maid, she turns against me, calls my father, speaks badly about me and provokes him by telling her version. At this point I do not understand my father, so intelligent that he thinks he is, that he bases himself on my mother’s version when he has lived with her for years and knows that she is a troublemaker and that she tells things maliciously.
This is a clear example of families with toxic parents: no matter what you do, it is never enough. They belittle you, devalue you, reproach you and threaten you. And on top of that, my father unloads his anger on me. I do not deserve that.
