Squirting Is Becoming a Sexual Myth
Lately, I’ve noticed more and more men becoming obsessed with squirting, while many women worry that they should be able to do it too.
It almost seems as if, unless a woman is soaking the sheets, she’s missing out on something. And if she does squirt, then it must mean she’s had an extraordinary orgasm.
My experience tells me it’s not that simple.
Over the years, I’ve spent a lot of time observing my own body, and I’ve also worked with many people exploring their sexuality. The more familiar I’ve become with my body, the more fluid I notice being produced during arousal. That wasn’t always the case. Today, I can feel certain internal areas becoming fuller, more hydrated, and more responsive when there is pleasure, relaxation, and effective stimulation.
That’s why I struggle to believe there’s a single, simple explanation for what’s happening.
What’s more, I haven’t only observed this phenomenon in relation to the vagina. I’ve also noticed similar responses during anal stimulation. That leads me to think we may be looking at a broader response involving the entire pelvic region—internal tissues that become engorged, hydrated, and filled with fluid when they receive pleasurable stimulation.
What I do know for certain is that many people have turned squirting into a performance.
It’s often presented as a special skill. A sign that a woman has reached the highest possible level of pleasure. Some people even use it as a way to stand out sexually.
I don’t see it that way.
To me, whether someone releases that fluid or not is secondary. Some women do it, some don’t. Some enjoy it, others would rather not.
Personally, I often prefer to keep that internal hydration. The more lubricated the area is, the more comfortable penetration tends to be, and the less likely friction is to cause discomfort. My focus is on the sensations themselves, not on creating a spectacle.
In fact, I believe squirting has more in common with a bodily skill than with a measurement of pleasure. Just as some people learn to whistle, isolate certain muscles, or gain greater control over specific parts of their body, some people learn to release that fluid more easily than others.
But that doesn’t make anyone more sexual, more feminine, or more orgasmic.
The real mistake is believing that the purpose of sex is to create a dramatic image that proves something.
The purpose of sex should be much simpler: to feel, to enjoy, to connect with your body, and to experience pleasure in whatever way works best for you.
Pleasure cannot be measured by the amount of fluid that leaves the body. I prefer to think of pleasure on a scale from 1 to 10.
After many years of exploring my sexuality, I’ve discovered that the most pleasurable place is not always reaching a 10 as quickly as possible. Often, it’s staying at a 9 or a 9.5 and fully enjoying everything the body is capable of feeling.
Of course, that only works if you can control it.
Learning to recognize different levels of arousal and manage them is actually one of the things we work on in my coaching sessions. When you understand how your body responds, you can choose whether you want to remain in that state of intense pleasure for longer or move all the way to a 10 and climax.
For me, that is where true sexual mastery lies: knowing your body so well that you can decide when you want to reach a 10.
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