It’s actually hilarious how, in this profession, it’s turned into the client telling you what they want and you just having to do it. I even used to do it myself.
But now, after 15 years, when a client calls me and tells me, from A to Z, exactly how they want the service to go, it genuinely annoys me. It’s like going to a masseuse who has their own technique and telling them exactly how to give the massage. Or calling a psychologist and telling her what questions she should ask you. You don’t do that, right? Or going to a Japanese restaurant and telling them you’re Italian, only to eat pasta.
Doesn’t that sound absurd? Well, start understanding that it’s the same in this profession, especially for those of us who seem new because we’re in a new city or left and came back years later, and are ‘new’ in the area again.
You book, you test the waters, and if you don’t like my style, technique, or ways, well, you don’t come back—and I’m sorry for you, your time, and your money. If you do like it, like many others, you come back another day.
Plus, I adapt heavily to the client. During the session, I try to figure out where their pleasure lies. Depending on the person, some almost won’t let me; they only want to focus on my pleasure and my orgasm.
The truth is, sex changes quite a bit depending on the country you’re in. I adapt to the country I’m in, and most importantly, to the person I’m with. It’s like selling tailor-made and buying tailor-made.
It reminds me of my mom, who goes into a store, instead of looking at what’s there, and buying it if she likes it or leaving, she asks the shop assistant for something she wants.
At this point in society, the way we shop has undergone. It’s not like when my mom was young, when the assistant would try everything to please you. Now: go in, look, and if you have doubts, ask. You can ask for a size or a colour, but don’t ask for something the store doesn’t have and demand it, because the assistant is going to think, ‘Where does this person think they are?’ or something like that.
Another thing I’ve realised is that I evolve how many times faster than a person who isn’t dedicated to the world of real sex. After 15 years, people are still having sex pretty much the same way. There’s little evolution, at least among those who use my sexual services.
You can’t compete with a person who has 15 years in the game, just like I can’t compete with a professional football player. Everyone has their speciality.
Oh, and another thing about clients: the one who judges you for asking for a deposit? You ask for a deposit because you’re travelling, and it’s happened to you many times—people standing you up, some even swearing they’re trustworthy—and you drive for an hour only to be ghosted. How am I not going to ask for a deposit?! Besides, paying up front is becoming more and more common anyway. What’s unprofessional about asking for a deposit?
You need to get used to the fact that these types of services require a deposit. You can pay through PayPal, where, if I’m a scammer, they’ll handle reporting me. Or through Bizum or your bank, where if I’m a scam, they’ll come after me. There are several ways that if I don’t deliver, you can get your money back or even damage my reputation. And as a professional, that’s something I definitely don’t want. And if you don’t know how to do it or you don’t trust me (what more do you need to trust me?), then don’t expect me to come to your place—which is over half an hour away—without any certainty, no matter if you live in La Moraleja or the most secure complex.
It costs nothing to pay the deposit, so that I can travel with peace of mind. I’ve been in sales my whole life, and I don’t do what most women in this profession do, which is hold back exact directions until the last minute. I do the opposite: I receive the deposit, I confirm, and I keep you updated until I arrive at the appointment. I even share my live location. That way, we’re both relaxed.
Some people make life stressful. It’s so easy— listen, put yourself in the other person’s shoes, and don’t think you’re better than them.
So please stop trying to have the same service with me you always have, because my service is ‘improvised’ but professional: with sex and orgasm, you never know how your body is going to respond. And let yourself go once in a while, especially the first time—it will also make my job easier.
Many times it will be so different that you might not even like it, but sometimes it takes more than once to get good results. I assure you that if you know how to communicate about your sexuality, and I figure out what you like, and you figure out what I want, we can have great times.
Isn’t that what life is also about—having a good time? And what’s better than a moment with sex, pleasure, ‘massage,’ ‘conversation,’ and good company?
Don’t mess it up with demands, too many questions, and ignorance, please.
I learned in life that with humility and good manners, you achieve everything.
Even though some people think it’s ‘gone to my head,’ which makes me wonder, what exactly has gone to my head?
“Cris Blas, Sex Coach, exploring positive sexuality.”
