There is a big debate between being open-minded and closed-minded, and it’s not binary. It’s not black or white. There is a huge scale between both extremes.
And in sex, it becomes very clear who is open-minded and who is closed-minded. Like in many areas of life, we have been led to believe that men and women feel differently. We are different by nature. But that’s not true.
We are the same, with different anatomies and different labels. What really makes the difference is not gender, but education, beliefs, and experiences.
From a young age, we are taught how to dress, how to move, how to speak, what to touch and what not to touch, what is right and what is wrong. These ideas get so deep into our minds and bodies that we end up believing that “we are different.” But we are not.
Pleasure has no gender.
We have the same nerve endings and the same capacity for orgasm. Physical orgasm depends on the person, not on whether they have a penis or a vagina.
That’s why the world is moving toward something more bisexual, more unisex. New generations clearly show this. In sex, this is just beginning to be seen: equal, with different anatomies.
In my sessions, I seek a different way of experiencing sex. I am increasingly drawn to clients who want me to enjoy, who know themselves, who are curious and open-minded. Not those who come only to release.
I have seen changes over the years. In Paris, for example, there used to be more open-mindedness. Today, after three years of not visiting, I even notice a regression. There is an obsession with anal sex because, since they cannot do it, many men still do not allow themselves to receive anal pleasure—it hurts, it’s difficult, or it generates internal conflict. The anus of a woman and a man are the same; it just varies from person to person, like everyone has their own nose.
For me, the problem arises especially when sex becomes something fast, intense, and only focused on finishing.
If you need speed and intensity to climax, that work is yours. You know your body better than anyone else. You cannot make someone else endure that finish just because you pay. That is prostitution, and I consider myself a sex worker. It’s like forcing a cleaning lady to scrub the entire floor on her knees. We are not in that century anymore (I did it because my mother taught me that way, but I don’t continue it; we are humans).
Of course, men then don’t understand why women don’t want to have sex and attribute it to menopause or any external excuse. When strong sex interrupts our orgasm, women often say “no” or “I’m not interested” so the man can finish, enduring pain most of the time until he climaxes. But women like sex just like men.
Yet, if you touch their ass, they say: “Hey, slowly!” And many of these “slow” men are the same who later have rough sex because they think your vagina or anus is different from theirs. How ignorant we have been raised in sex!
In my sessions, I need to feel pleasure. I connect more and more with my orgasm and do not want encounters where only one person enjoys. If there is no shared pleasure, that client does not interest me. I say it every time!
My rule is clear: I aim to take you to an 8, and you must aim to take me to an 8.
Only then does penetration happen.
Where? Anal or vaginal.
One route is chosen. Zones are not mixed on the same day, especially in a first session. The body needs time, attention, and respect when opening a new zone.
I use a 0–10 scale in my sessions to know where each person is in pleasure.
0 is feeling nothing, 1 is a very mild internal tingling; 5 that tingling starts to feel increasingly good, 8 is very close, 10 is climax.
With a toy on the clitoris and fingers or a well-used penis, I can maintain a constant orgasm and move between 7 and 8. That’s the point that matters: finding a posture, technique, or position where both of us feel that inner physical orgasm and play together, rise, descend, and control.
Most people, the first time with me, don’t expect this. They find me on an escort site and are surprised: they meet a coach who talks, guides, and enjoys.
So let it be clear: here, you don’t come to use someone; you come to learn to give and receive physical, orgasmic pleasure. Once you learn what shared orgasm is, there is no turning back.
I would have loved to meet someone like this at 18. It would have saved me much sex without pleasure and much pain.
Another myth: when the man finishes, it’s over. Very few stay so the woman can finish too.
I used to say yes to everything. I was raised in sexual submission. Today, no. Today I decide how my sessions are and with whom. I don’t beg or chase clients who only seek their own pleasure.
It’s like going to a massage: you trust, let it happen, and then decide if it was worth it. Time and money included.
Another thing about sexuality is that every time I return to a place where I worked for a long time, I notice that I evolve, but many clients do not. I see it in Paris; I see it in Madrid. Some have opened up to receiving anal pleasure, but many remain obsessed with giving anal sex as if it were a purchased right. It is not. I am human, not a machine. I have physical limits. Some days I cannot do anal sex, and that should be understood. But many, if they cannot do what they want, judge you as unprofessional.
In my sessions, the goal is always a good orgasm, however it comes in the moment.
Humans think they have to control everything—even sex. But it is not like that.
Pleasure is not forced; it flows.
It is not imposed; it is shared and communicated.
And here, you come to feel, not to control, especially in a first session.
In later sessions, when there is trust, body knowledge, and connection… it is another stage.
