Since arriving in Madrid, I have seen how surreal the problem of being a sex worker is.
While I was still in Paris, I started hearing from colleagues that the Spanish government wanted to hide prostitution and abolish it. This subject always comes up when there are changes in government.
This time, it is because a negative image of the country was given to tourists, by people who do not accept this profession and want it to remain hidden.
It already appeared very vulgar: there were many sex workers on the street, advertisements and posters everywhere with nudity and obscene words.
Now they hid it again and here is the result today, January 2024.
From my point of view and given my presence in sex work, this is what I see.
With the word prostitution, we include everything that involves sexual relations, whether consensual or not, as long as there is money involved.
However, being a sex worker can take different forms. I speak in feminine terms because we are mainly women in this profession.
(It is clear that it is different to be born with testosterone or estrogen).
It can be:
-The one who works on the street independently.
-The one who works on the street for someone.
-The one who works in a club which in Spain is called “Puti Club”.
-The one who works in a living room, in a house or an apartment.
-The one who works in a massage centre.
-The one who works for an agency.
-The one who works independently in a private apartment or who goes to the client’s house (like me).
Next, we have the types of agencies or intermediaries:
-Agencies that have their facilities.
-Online agencies. They put the client and the sex worker in contact.
-Pimps
-And the thousands of web pages.
Web pages were a treasure for many web developers, who learned to be first in searches and without knowing anything about the craft, they began creating thousands of pages.
Here, everyone wants to make money and a lot of money.
I may be forgetting other cases, but these are more or less all the people who live in the sexuality sector.
Among all of us, I would only put pimping in the word prostitution. That is, people who coerce other people into having sex for money.
The rest of us are people who work in the sexual field and make a living from it.
From there, putting us all into prostitution is unfair.
And if prostitution exists, that is to say, pimping and trafficking of women, it is the fault of the clients. If there were no clients who consumed this type of sex, there would not be the famous trafficking of women.
Clients have sometimes told me that they went to a place with a bad atmosphere. I tell them that when they encounter something like this, they should notify the police.
Well, no customer does that.
Besides, most of them don’t even realize it because since there is this shitty sex, they even consider it normal. The goal is to masturbate in a woman’s pussy, that’s their goal.
It’s rape.
The other day I said to a client whose goal was to cum twice, “What you just did to me was masturbation to my pussy. And I understand that you don’t have any type of sex education and that you don’t do it on purpose. But if you fuck women like that, it’s like raping them.”
Let’s see how I explain this, about rape.
Men who have sex with a sex worker have gotten into the habit of fucking without arousing the woman first. They got into the habit of putting it directly in without having heated you, even a little.
What’s wrong? Most sex workers just want you to cum and leave. So they got the man used to fucking this way.
But what happens when they find fun-loving sex workers like me? Well, with this type of sex, I feel like I’ve been raped. And I also agreed to it in exchange for money.
It’s good to tell him because if I don’t tell him anything, he’ll continue to do it like this. And not only that: the day he goes out with a woman who doesn’t pay, if he fucks like that, what woman will love him? (unless he has money or is very handsome).
I’m trying to change that, to change the way we make love.
But here also come into play the laws of the State and all these moral taboos on sex which do not allow sex education to be enriched.
I am a sex worker who practising sex for 13 years and my job now is to teach what I’ve learned to see if together we can make crappy vagina-penis sex disappear. What if we can all enjoy the pleasure of good sex?
How can I continue to have sex in my sessions (what’s better than teaching with practice like playing soccer)? I cannot advertise on the pages of professional sex coaches, or sexologists, I must continue to advertise on the pages of escorts.
But it now turns out that on Escorts in Spain pages you cannot include texts saying that you have sex and receive money.
On the sex pages, they don’t accept my text. I have to write a text that has nothing to do with the services I offer. So it’s difficult to attract attention and tell people about my experience and what I offer. I have to cover it up with stupid texts that I don’t identify with at all.
And on the sex coach pages, they do not accept my ad because my teaching includes sexual practice.
It’s a cast 22.
It concerns our entire field. We cannot do real advertising and we are forced to do false advertising. Because either Google expels us or the State expels us.
Now it turns out that there is a page created abroad, and since its tax base and address have different laws, Google and the State admit it as well as the usual Spanish websites. They close them overnight, with all the work of many years. And we have to create other pages urgently to be able to continue our activity.
As my site was created in France and Switzerland, Google protects it from the Spanish police. But if she discovered it, she would censor it like they did Nuevoloquo and Pasion.
My 13-year-old work was thrown in the trash. Just like that.
That’s what I don’t like about Spain is that they don’t let you prosper, not only that, but they help you not to prosper. The work of several years goes up in smoke.
Now, to be able to see censored pages, you need to install an app on your computer, phone or tablet to browse privately and be able to see censored pages.
Here I write what needs to be done to be able to view the pages without censorship.
Install the WARP app. Several websites were blocked without notice by some Internet companies and some pages were also censored by the police.
We don’t know how long this corporate blockade will last if other companies will join the blockade, and if they will block more websites. It is important to do the following:
WARNING: If you are unable to access the web, download one of these free applications, use a free VPN to access the web, and spread the message to all your contacts:
Android – Samsung, Xiaomi,…:
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.cloudflare.onedotonedotonedotone
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.opera.mini.native
iOS-Apple, iPhone, iPad:
https://apps.apple.com/es/app/1-1-1-1-faster-internet/id1423538627
https://apps.apple.com/es/app/navegador-opera-y-vpn-privada/id1411869974
Windows and Mac:
https://one.one.one.one/es-ES/
https://www.opera.com/es/browsers/opera
If you have WARP installed, you need to permit it when it asks you and activate the big button, then you will be able to browse normally with your browser.
If you have OPERA installed, you need to click in the upper left corner, in the world, and activate the VPN, in OPERA MINI this is not necessary, it is activated by default.
Android explanatory video: https://www.tiktok.com/@follam8/video/7294285896730316065
Iphone explanatory video: https://www.tiktok.com/@follam8/video/7295825608456572192