My first climax. I always say nobody teaches us and talks us about sex openly and even less so than during the time I was a teenager. The only thing I had heard from time to time was the phrase “make a finger”. That’s when I introduced something into my vagina. I was never satisfied, of course now I understand why.
With my friends from childhood we never talked about sex and it was also hidden. And for sure at home we never talked about sex. Even with cousins or brothers and sisters.
From my two relationships I never had an orgasm and during my third relationship I discovered it for myself. My partners never knew how to arouse me. If I did not know how to myself, how could I pretend with other people and they could know me? and least of all the male gender!
Well, that’s what’s going on!!. Many women do not know their orgasm because nobody explains it to us and talks about it openly and of course a lot of men do not know how to arouse us.
I heard about sex as something incredible and I thought “Sex is overrated!!”.
THE INTERNET NOT ONLY CHANGED MY SEXUAL LIFE IT CHANGED MY ENTIRE LIFE.
My first orgasm was in Buenos Aires (sounds chic). In that time I was flight attendant. Laptops were still uncommon and there wasn’t internet everywhere. The hotels had common computers in the the lounge and I used the internet a lot then. I was hooked. I would connect to it as soon as I arrived at the hotel.
I started on line chatting with a pseudonym and nothing else. I met a guy and we started to chat continuously to get horny online. Imagine! it happened in the hotel reception, everything super discreet. One day I was super horny and I went up to my room and almost without touching I arrived !!!. “The orgasm, the climax.” It was awesome and I thought at that moment: “Wow!!! I know what an orgasm is now”.
The biggest letdown of something so exciting was when I arrived home to Madrid and I told my boyfriend what had happened to me. I had experienced an orgasm for myself but he continued fucking like he didn’t think about me or my orgasms. And also he pretended to me I was anorgasmic.
WOMEN ARE NOT ANORGASMIC BUT WE HAVE A LONG TIME TO FIND IT SOMETIMES WOMEN FIND IT IN ADOLESCENCE.
I am not ashamed to talk about sex and whenever I can. I like to talk about it because I discover more about the world of sex.
I’ve talked with a lot of women about the climax and some of them have not had their orgasm either until almost in there 30’s. And for sure many women have died without having an orgasm! How sad that sounds!! And this happens because we do not talk about sex openly. I think it’s very important that nobody dies without having thousands of orgasms. A pleasure so natural and so nice that everyone should experience it and know it perfectly.
YOU WORRY ABOUT DOING YOUR WORK WELL AND YOU DO NOT WORRY ABOUT HAVING GOOD SEX. YOU HAVE TO STUDY IT AND PRACTICE IT.
From when I discovered my orgasm I changed my way of fucking, thinking about myself and seeking my own pleasure. I did it many times, fucking to the rhythm of men and now I wanted it for myself. Some men started to called me selfish. (Shamelessness).
I discovered that women do not have just one G spot. Every woman is different (not all anatomies are the same) but it is true that we have similarities like the men with theirs penises.
What makes me laugh is when I read or listen to men talking about the sexuality of women. It’s difficult to know how women feel if you are not a woman . So nobody can speak properly or 100% about something if they have not lived in your own personal experience. And women can know how to run to men and men to a woman but what we feel only we know.
It is like the example of psychotic breakdowns. The psychiatrists have seen and observed a lot of people like me in a psychotic breakdown but if you do not have your own experience you will never know how its feels and how the real the feeling is.
The women’s clitoris is internal with a small limb hidden between the lower lips. Infant boys can suddenly gets erect and by instinct they discover their first orgasm at babies but for girls the body does not give us any physical clues.
I see the advantages men have regarding orgasms. But also maybe disadvantage because for some they orgasm very easy. And sometimes it’s better if you are not so easy.
And when you discover the orgasm, this pleasure it’s no surprise to me that the brain, the body and the instinct want more, a second and a third and a fourth … that is the reason why we become a “jerk off/pajero”.
It’s normal to masturbate!!!. Do we not eat every day, pee, shit and laugh and cry ?. Of course!!!
When I was a teenager I was a difficult girl. I have not gone to bed with anyone who really aroused my sexual feelings. Of course, I did not know the pleasure of orgasms. When I discovered the climax I became an easy and single woman and I stopped being interested about fidelity and monogamy.
Being a slut in this society is not well received.
Being an easy woman before to gets to your 40’s and fucking with thousands in this society is very criticized but I am sure it is because it creates insecurities in men. To be with a woman who fucks everyone a lot of men think that they will be inadequate with this woman. Apart from that they consider you a slut!!. And they care very much about their reputation in their circle of friends and colleagues and also what their mothers thought them. Being a slut in this society is not well received.
Well, call me slut! I don’t care!!!. I enjoy sex so much and I don’t mind what people say. I’m not doing anything wrong I’m just having sex.
Another absurdity of life !!!
HOW TO PROVOKE THE FEMALE ORGASM? ABOVE ALL RUBBING IT.
75% to 80% of women have to rub the clitoris externally. It is usually covered by the lower lips.
Some women say they do not need to rub the clitoris because through penetration she has orgasms, not all, but many still do not know what the climax is . You can be very horny and have a lot of pleasure but when you arrive to the climax it’s something different. I say this because a friend told me she had multiple orgasms. A few years later she told me Ahh !!! I know what an orgasm is !!!. And I listened to her talking about her multiple orgasm and she made me jealous !!! Sometimes it’s better not to listen because it can confuse you.
My opinion about the multiple orgasm is you can keep the moment of pleasure, pleasure, pleasure, during seconds and even minutes, but when some one reaches climax if you have another orgasm and climax very near it is because you have not had sex for a long time and you are very sensitive. I’ve been practicing sex for a long time, I practice a lot, I talk with friends and I think multi climax is a bit of a legend. Just very few get it.
It would be better to say multiorgasms extend the moment of pleasure. And climax would be the moment you explode, that is, like when the man ejaculates and you do not want to continue, on the contrary you want to stop.
I think the pleasure is the same in men as in women. The difference is how to arouse it physically.
PORN MOVIES AND MOVIES WHERE THERE IS SEX ARE CAUSING TOO MUCH DAMAGE AND CONFUSION.
Sometimes I stop watching a porn movie because I notice it’s too fictional. It does not make you horny. I see how women are submissive to men and I see the fake orgasms. The woman touches hers clitoris very quickly and badly and its impossible to imagine that this is true. They are pretending.
As women we don’t like our heads taken when we are doing a blow job. We don’t like fast and strong sex. On the contrary softer and slower it’s much more pleasant. We enjoy fast and wild occasionally. What you see in the movies and how they take their clothes off so fast it seems like they are thirsty for sex. It’s just an interpretation of the actors.
AND NOW WITH THE FEMALE EJACULATION, THE FAKE BECOMES BIGGER.
A female ejaculation does not provide better orgasms and when the girls are dripping this does not mean they are enjoying more than you can and they don’t get more pleasure than you. Ejaculation doesn’t always happen at the same that climax does. Ejaculation doesn’t means Climax.
A friend advised me: “Don’t learn how to ejaculate because after that you can’t control it and sometimes it’s uncomfortable”.
So women and men don’t get confused!. It is not related to greater pleasure.
I HAVE A REAL EXAMPLE OF A FRIEND WHO HAS BEEN MARRIED TWICE AND SHE NEVER HAD AN ORGASM WITH ANY OF HER HUSBANDS. SHE FAKED THEM AND AFTER SEX SHE WOULD MASTURBATE.
In conclusion. Between some women lie and pretend orgasms, the movies lie and also men who fuck more and supposedly get their own pleasure. It is difficult to have good sex and it is difficult to know how to do it good for many people.
Fortunately I have managed to improve my sexuals relations and I enjoy it as much as possible. “With money or without money”. That is not important. But something I am really sure of I have never pretended an orgasm and I will not fake an orgasm never ever. It’s stupid !!! You are lying yourself.
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I wrote this another time and here it appears again. Remember it! That’s why you can read repeated things.
Women can achieve the orgasm very easily. We just need some suggestion and we can enjoy it like the men. But even in sex there is an inequality in the gender.
And beware of the myth of the fountain woman. They do not enjoy or have better orgasms the rest. And it is even becoming the new female ejaculation that many women are learning and they use it in the porn movies and in my profession. It is not an orgasm at all. If a woman already pretended this she can pretend more.
This goes for women who do not get to do it. Please do not worry because it’s does not mean more pleasure or more orgasms. Even some friends have managed to do it and now they can’t control it and some time it’s very annoying. So my advice to you, do not even learn to do it. It is NOT more pleasure. No way!!
However vibrators cause much more pleasure. Get one on AliExpress.com and buy one and try it!. You’ll flip!!!. Sometimes you don’t feel it the first time, but when you get the hang of it it’s an incredible orgasm. And with the vibration of the clitoris and with the penetration to the vagina or the anus the orgasm doubles or triples. And this is I can confirm very well because I have used them for a long time. Now without them I do not get an orgasm. It’s very difficult for me.
However I do not care to use vibrators to get my orgasm. It’s better with toys than not to arrive.
Agree and disagree. As a man I agree that making a woman happy in a sexual encounter is not easy, and as a man I wish I could. I don’t just want to fuck. I don’t think all men are about that. There’s no enjoyment in it.
Thanks Cris. Keep writing. You are a brave soul.
We are not so difficult. Just you have to listen us and observe us !!! Thanks to you!!!